Tip #14: Fly solo!

Ok, this tip is going to be a little strange. I've always heard it's best to partner up with someone while on a weight loss journey. That way you have accountability... it's more fun when you've got someone to workout with.... you're not feeling so alone.... etc. I'm about to share a tip that is contrary to everything we've ever heard about partnering up with a friend.

Fly solo.

I have tried to lose weight throughout the years. I've ALWAYS joined forces with a friend. But what happens when I join up with a friend is that I end up encouraging them and literally using all of my energy to help them succeed! That's just me - my natural tendency is to give everything I have to help my friends overcome their struggles. The problem with that in this particular case? I didn't have any energy left for myself. It took 15 years to figure this one out. After 15 years of pairing up and failing.... I finally realized that FIRST, I must focus my energy on fighting MY battle. THEN - I will be able to help others. This was key I tell you... KEY to not commit and dedicate myself to helping someone else on their weight loss when I needed so much help myself! In fact, throughout the course of the journey I've had people say they were going to start on their own weight loss journey. Normally, I would jump on that train and offer my accountability, time, and mentorship. I can remember numerous conversations with Josh, telling him how much I wanted to help "so and so" get started on their journey, and he would always remind me ... "Not yet Tara! You've got to focus on YOU right now!" That literally went against everything in me, but I see now why it was ever-so important!! So resist the temptation to save yourself AND the world!! (ha) You are going to need every bit of energy and focus for yourself as you resist the daily temptations you will face! Rest assured, when you are stronger, God will use you to help others!!!!